“You won’t believe who contacted me on Facebook!” Jerri practically tackled Shelly as she came into the coffee shop. “Do you remember Brad? That jerk who cheated on me last year?”
Shelly remembered only too well. Jerri was hung up on Brad in a major way. None of her friends liked him, but she couldn’t resist. There was such strong chemistry, she overlooked all kinds of warning signs until…..
“How dare he contact me. Who does he think he is?” And then in a smaller voice, “Do you think he still likes me?”
What? How can Jerri give him the time of day? Why does she care that Brad is back into the picture?
Why in the world do ex-boyfriends show up right when your confidence is starting to go up?
Believe it or not, this is PERFECT for Jerri. On her way to True Love, Jerri can use the old feelings to build a strong personal LOVE VIBE for herself. You don’t have to let an EX squash your confidence! Follow these steps and BUILD a stronger Love Vibe as you leave him in the past where he belongs!
Seeing Your Ex Survival Kit
1. Recognizing that your EX still rents space in your heart. Yes, you might as well admit it. The guy still has an energetic bookmark within your Love Experience. He may be gone…long gone, but if the relationship ended badly or rather didn’t end properly, he is lurking in the corners of your mind, ready to stop your soul mate search in its tracks. DON’T PANIC. You can evict that EX when you know how.
2. Decide how much heat is still left in the relationship. This is the most important step. Face the truth and ‘feel’ how much you are still connected to him in your emotions. All you do is create a scale with 1 being a sense of ill-at-ease and 10 being overjoyed. When you think of him, where are you on the scale. There is no right or wrong here, just go with your first impulse.
3. Cut yourself some big time slack. Guess what, these feelings are not irrational. Your body reacts with a flood of fight or flight chemicals….without your consent. Why is this important? Because it feels awful to be ambushed by these body chemicals. It makes you feel like something is terribly wrong…with YOU! There is nothing wrong with you at all!! You are supposed to get a warning like this when you meet someone who is not a good match.
4. Clear the decks and refresh yourself. While it is true, you can’t stop EX-Lovers from tracking you down on Social Media, you CAN use these opportunities to lift your Love Vibe into the stratosphere. When you panic, feel gross, disappointed or angry when the thought of an EX comes across your mind, TAKE ACTION. And I don’t mean call your best friend and bitch. First get out of the house and take a long walk. Walk as if you have a plane to catch and hit it hard. Physical exercise will flush those fight or flight chemicals right out of your body and you will feel better for sure.
5. Call a Friend. Now you are ready to speak to a fellow soul mate manifester, or a friend who is practicing Law of Attraction. Now that you have calmed down. Spend your time on the phone telling your new story. Believe me, your friends will be THRILLED to support your new mindset! It may include ideas like this:
- “I saw that my ex found me on Facebook.”
- “I have come such a long way since then.”
- “Seeing him again makes me realize how much I used to settle in the past.”
- “Up until now, I thought I couldn’t do better.”
- “Now I know that I deserve a kind and gentle man and I love knowing I am attracting more and more men like that in my life.”
- “I am grateful I saw him again, it gave me a chance to wash him out of my heart again.’
- “I am not thrilled that I freaked out, but I am proud of myself for handling it so well.”
- “I am just going to unfriend him and let him go.”
- “I love feeling like this. I feel strong and in control!”
Why do those exes show up? It is all part of the plan. Your Inner Being knows exactly what is between you and the Love you are Seeking. Seeing your EX and feeling those old patterns of doubt, fear and insecurity is the fastest way to success. You are in control of how you RESPOND and once you know that…the sky is the limit!
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