Be A Love Detective Part 1 
“My husband never says, I love you anymore.”
Why is it that men are so resistant to the “L” word?
Why is it that women are so addicted to it?
Does saying “I love you” really matter?
What? You say.
Of course it matters. I can’t be with someone who doesn’t love me.
Wait just a moment….did you say that a man cannot love you without saying I love you?
Think about that one for a minute.
Is it possible for a man to love you WITHOUT telling you so? And why is it so bleeping important to HEAR those three little words.
That being said, is it also possible that our addiction to hearing those three words closes us to other expressions of love that are right in front of our noses?
I want to throw another perspective unto the table.
What if we women could back off on our insistence that love be expressed on our terms and our terms only?
What if we could become Love Detectives and search out the clues that lead to our understanding of just how much our men DO care for us?
What if we could put aside our need to hear those words and instead begin celebrating the clues we find?
I am listening……
I can just hear some of you screaming in protest! “I already do most of the work and don’t want to be a Love Detective! I want him to shape up!”
I know, I know but believe me, your man will step up to the plate when you take some of the pressure off of him. Believe it or not, he is doing the best he can. He has no idea how to make you feel loved and you and I both know that men don’t like to be in situations where they may appear weak and clueless.
So what to do? Tune in next post and I will lay out the plan…..
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My boyfriend said there is no way someone can love someone else in less than a year. I don’t argue with him because he’s a know-it-all. I would just end up losing. Little does he know, I know he loves me and it’s …been less than a year. I can tell by his actions, his concerns for me and the way he is around my son and I. Women have certain expectations of the words “I love you”. He doesn’t have to say “I love you” to show that he loves you. But hey, it sure is nice to hear. We need that.