Hungry For Love? What’s On YOUR Menu?

In this month’s Oprah Magazine, Jane Fonda (A Scarlett O’Hara if I ever saw one) is featured in an article that caught my eye. Here’s what grabbed my attention:

Jane Fonda: “Every time I found myself without a man, I fell into a low-sizzling panic.” And then: “…I’d lost parts of who I was because I was trying to mold myself into what I thought a man wanted me to be.”

After her divorce from Ted Turner, she was single for 9 years. At 73 she is now in a committed relationship with no designs on a fourth marriage. “I’m bringing my real self–the real Jane–and he is giving me his real self too.”

Jane claims those 9 years of self discovery put her on her feet and helped her find what she really wanted in a relationship. In fact, she got so busy with life, she stopped looking for a partner all together. When Jane stopped looking to men to fill her love tank, she was 60 years old. Did that mean that she was without LOVE and affection for nearly ten years?

What did she do with her love hunger?

I believe Jane learned what I learned in my fifties and that is that LOVE is available and much easier to come by than we are taught. Feeling a connection with another person is delicious. When you are acknowledged, accepted and affirmed by someone, anyone, it feels good.

And yet, somewhere along the way, many come to an expectation that there is a SPECIAL kind of love. A PRIVATE LABEL Love that is much better, much more soul satisfying than what you see as generic love.

Now I am not talking romance here. Romance is fun and has its place in the love game, but I am talking about the deep experience of love connection that humans share with one another.

The physical experience of being accepted and affirmed is what I am talking about. I have news for you….the sensation of acceptance and high regard is the same whether that acceptance comes from your mom, your neighbor or your barista. What you say? That can’t be.

I know it is hard to believe but this is the secret to radiating the kind of love vibe that will make a real difference for you. When you see how many people are in your life right now who can bring you this feeling and make the choice to receive these good thoughts personally…as if they have been meant to fulfill your longings, the world will open up for you.

In my past, I used to think that my ex was the one and only True Love provider in my life. I truly believed that there was a certain ‘brand’ of love (loving feelings) that he was not giving me. I felt cheated because if he didn’t ‘love’ me the way I wanted to be loved, that it was impossible to feel loved.

The fact that he is my EX tells you how successful that was.  Today I know that when it comes to love, I need to have a full menu of love provision to keep my love vibe. The cool thing is that I get to fill my own love menu, as a matter of fact…I am the only one who can.

So, here is my Love Menu, go ahead and use some of these ideas to form your own:

Starters (These gestures make me feel loved because I know how I feel when someone is kind to me.) I FEEL the love as I am:

–Bringing in my elderly neighbors newspaper

–Volunteering at the cat shelter socializing cats

–Thanking the Starbucks Barista for being there since 6 am

Entrees:

–Calling a friend from the past to reconnect

–Joining an enriching community

–Reaching out to help someone else who is lonely and disconnected

Desserts:

–Pay it forward. Watch for chances to buy a stranger a meal, pop a coin in an expired parking meter or walk through your community giving a flower to people you pass by.

–Send notes to authors you enjoy reading.

–Comment on the blogs and articles online that inspire and entertain you.

What happens when you do all of these things? If you know how to work the magic, you can feel sensations in your body and thoughts in your mind that are alive with the vibration of LOVE.

A part of your mind might be screaming…what about me? Who will do these things for ME? Welcome your Saboteur. Something is separating you from love and your reaction to these suggestions forces this part of you to surface.

In order to attract pure love, it is easier than you think. When you have a menu full of options and a mindset to FEEL like you want others to feel, you will attract amazing new people into your life.  What do you think?  Do YOU have a Love Menu?

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