How To Find A Man Who Won’t Hurt Your Feelings

Feel free to cut and paste this ad and post it on your local Craig’s List:

Wanted:  The Perfect Man

I am looking for an ideal partner. You must be open and available to me emotionally. You must be easily entertained and passionate about your life. You must be confident and have the ability to get noticed when you come into the room.

I prefer manscaping so no extraneous body hair. Integrity is important to me and you must be your true self at all times.   You must get along with my friends and family and yet be completely devoted to me.

Above and beyond all, you must never, ever hurt my feelings.  I have been hurt enough and it is up to you to put an end to that.  Oh, and if you are short, bald or broke…no need to apply.

Silly?  You bet!  And yet, most single women have a version of that running in the background of their minds. Just like a hidden program on your computer’s hard drive, you have a ‘mind virus’ that is convincing you that some version of the above want ad is true.

Can you have a man who won’t hurt your feelings? You know that can’t be true.  And yet, the pain of being misunderstood or dismissed is so intense for some women that they organize their whole lives to make sure they don’t get hurt.

Love Sabotage for sure!!! What can you do instead?  I know it is hard to accept that hurt feelings can’t be eliminated forever.  Actually, that is a good thing.  Your hurt feelings feeling is a critical part of turning up your love magnetism.  Tune into this video and I will explain why:

 

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4 thoughts on “How To Find A Man Who Won’t Hurt Your Feelings

  1. Hi I can relate so much!! The same happend to me with my mom’s passing …I’m feeling the pain in my core …in my heart.. How I can develop this to help me ?…you talk of this as an asset but for me it’s so painful I don’t know how to use it… please help

  2. Hi Johanna,

    Every woman has to come to the point where she can experience hurt feelings and not blame anyone or anything for them. You are a sensitive being who has strong reactions to sadness and disappointment.

    As a child, these feelings were like a tsunami inside. It felt TERRIBLE to have those strong feelings. Now as an adult, you are better able to handle it but there is still a part of you that is afraid of the bad feelings.

    When your mom’s passing is hot in the middle of your thoughts, it feels terrible, right? Like you can’t go on? The best thing you can do is to say this to yourself:

    Even though I feel terrible right now, I choose to see it as a temporary situation. Even though I feel awful right now, I know it is only temporary.

    If you are a tapper, tap on the points while you say these two sentences.

    You also will benefit from being with people who care. Your local hospice has a grief group that will welcome you with open arms. Go and get the comfort you need. This is a hard time and you need a lot of hugs.

    I hope this helps.

    Love,
    Catherine

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