“I want a relationship more than anything,” the good looking fifty- something man sighed, “I am just terrified of getting hurt.”
“I feel exactly the same way!” An attractive woman added from across the room. “I am terrified.”
Terrified is a very strong word, isn’t it?
My heart goes out to these beautiful people who attended a recent Law of Attraction and Soul Mates Event.
I remember My days of terror. In my first marriage, Terror ruled the day. I lived in constant terror…mindless terror that made me into a chameleon. I constantly adjusted myself to my ex, my in-laws and my own family. I
was completely lost in trying to make everyone else happy with me. Like I said, I can relate to what these fantastic people described as “terrified.”
There is a solution to that terror and the good news is, it is easier than you think.
Here are three easy steps you can take right now. Remember that New Love is always a bit scary and you will feel a little anxious, that’s normal, but you can put terror behind you for good!
1. Acknowledge the Terror. Just admitting that you are terrified is more powerful than you think. Your rational mind can assist you here. Is terror a reasonable reaction? Probably not.
2. Tell Yourself the Truth. I love the words, “Even though….” to walk myself into better feeling thoughts. You are in charge of your own mind. CHOOSE your thoughts. “Even though a part of me is terrified of Love, there is another part of me that knows I will be ok, no matter what.” “Even though I have been disappointed in Love…more than once, I am determined to welcome New Love with a Clear Heart.” “Even though I don’t know where my Love is right now, I choose to send him Love and Good Will.
3. State What You Want. There are three other words that empower me Every Time. “Up Until Now…” When you catch yourself in “terror mode,” practice saying what you DO want (which probably is Not terror, right?) “Up until now I have been terrified of New Love, but today I choose a different way.” “Up until now, I have suffered in my Loving relationships, but today I choose to believe in the goodness and gentleness of Love.” “Up until now, I have been hurt in Love, but I made it through and learned a lot about myself.”
There is a part of you that is terrified. You know that is true. Remember that you are the only one who can step up and bring comfort and peace.
Sometimes a Meetup or some personal mentoring can give you just the boost you need to step out of the terror and into the normal jitters everyone has when dating someone new!
