Do you remember the butterflies and self-doubt that go along with meeting new people?
Dating after divorce can be like stepping into a time machine. There’s nothing like a blind date after not dating for years to wake up hidden insecurities and transport you back to when you felt your worst. The feelings can keep you from attracting what you want and from getting the love you seek. I went through such time travel last weekend and it sure is humbling to see how quickly self-esteem can melt away.
Now, I am a reasonably attractive woman. I’ve been divorced now for over two years and I’m ready to meet a new partner. I want to explore getting to know a man and am looking forward to meeting the men coming my way. When I go to a singles event with gal pals, I am generally comfortable.
Going out alone is a whole different story.
I went “back in time” last weekend. I was invited to go sailing with a new group of friends. Of course, then I checked the Facebook page of my hostess. Big Mistake.
What I saw was a fashionista with exquisite taste and a budget to match. She’s a stunner and so are all of her friends. At each event, she posted pictures from she always looked amazing. Sheesh!
I felt awkward and clueless about style. How I wished I had something new to wear! I wished I hadn’t said yes. I wished I didn’t have to go. The more I looked at my awkward self in the mirror, the worse I felt.
Me. The Law Of Attraction Guru!
But … I AM dating and I PROMISED myself that I would accept all invitations. I prefer meeting people in public rather than online, and I even tell all my clients they have to get out there and get social. I was stuck. I HAD to go. To read how I handled it, click here:
Dating When You Don’t Feel Like It
