Hey Rapunzel, Is That A Chip on Your Shoulder?

“You have such a chip on your shoulder.”

“Why are you so thin-skinned?”

“Lighten up.”

Ever heard any of these comments from the people in your world?

How about:

“I am such a loser.”

“Something must be wrong with me.”

“It is not really possible to create my reality….I would have never created this.”

“I hate my_______(life, job, self, ex-mother-in-law, former boss, mom, dad, life, your ex, take your pick)

Ever heard any of these thoughts roaming around like jackals in your mind, searching for someone (you)  to devour?

Ever want to just give up, burn your vision board, sell your Law of Attraction books and quit trying to find love?

I know how you feel.

Yes, even though I am a Snow White and perpetually perky, even I have my moments of crushing disappointment.  The Law of Attraction Movement is seductive.  Make your dreams come true.  YOU create your reality.  YOU mold your thoughts into the things you desire. YOU have control of your life.

Are the authors lying to you?  No.  They are simply telling you what worked for them, emphasis on “them.”

Otherwise, how do you explain their success and your complete  failure to achieve your one goal…..being happily married and living your happily ever after?

Doesn’t it suck?

So here are my top five reasons the Law of Attraction Machine fails miserably for the lonely and naive:

1.  You are focused on creating the circumstances rather than your reactions to how life is unfolding.

2.  Focusing on the circumstances and using LOA techniques to do so is a useless waste of your time.  (Just ask the residents of Vermont after hurricane Irene)

3.  You are focused on the achievement of FINDING a man rather than doing what you need to do to be emotionally available to him when he shows up.

4.  You don’t know what will really make you happy.

5.  You create your manifestation goals based on avoiding pain rather than embracing your heartbreaks and growing through them.

So what is a sweet Rapunzel to do?

Here are five action steps that will get you on the right track:

1.  Accept that what is happening right now is simply where your past choices and decisions have led you.

2. Admit that doing things your own way has not worked out so well.

3. Align yourself with people who are brutally honest with you and reflect to you your true value.

4. Affirm that you are ready for NEW choices and NEW decisions and write them down.

5. Act on these new choices. Show the Universe that you mean business.  Don’t repeat what has not been working…this simple step can work miracles!

Whether it is a coach, a mentor, a good friend or pastor, you need someone to ask you the important questions that you can’t ask yourself.  If you are hiding behind the pain of your past, your affirmations and intentions will continue to attract disappointment after disappointment.

Affirmations created from LOVE will always work but I can promise you that the LOVE will be delivered in very surprising ways! Above all, NEVER give up, Sweet Rapunzel…your dreams for romance are there to lead you THROUGH so brush that pesky chip off your shoulder and get back in the game!

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