Bored and Lonely This Holiday Weekend?

Is the best date you can get the one with your fingernails?

I know lonely very well. Even when I am with people who know me, my mind can ruin the day by reminding me of someone who is either no longer on the planet or who lives far away. Or better, up until now that has been true.  The mind is a pesky thing, unless you are wise to its tricks, love seems hard to find.

Thinking about the one you miss is like throwing a bucket of cold water on your good mood. It always works every time. It sucks to be far away from a family member and the way the world is today, every person alive has a family member who lives over a day’s drive away.  Everyone is lonely some of the time.

You probably have trained yourself to forget how much you miss your mom back east or your grandbabies in Tennessee. The fact that you see hardly ever see them becomes normal. Same if someone you love has passed away.

It takes time but eventually you get used to life without that person. Your brain is a problem solving, forward moving, momentum creating machine and will help you get on with yourself and your life.

Dr. Wayne Dyer describes it like this...You have within you a mighty forward moving momentum that is pulling you forward to your highest potential.  This life force is seen in every being…even crystals and “non-living” parts of nature are all developing from one stage to the next.

So, if your highest potential is to be married and you are still frustratingly single…what’s going on?

You can’t help but move forward…you are hardwired to do so. You may feel that you are not moving forward, but you are.  Life is going by and doesn’t slow down for you.  You couldn’t move forward at all in life if you missed all of the wonderful people you have known so far.

I am now 58 and I understand that in a way I couldn’t have at 28. I took the endings of relationships personally for years thinking there was something wrong with me that ended those connections.

Remember that hard wiring I mentioned before? Well, your brain is hard wired for you to advance, certainly….but it is also hard wired to protect you. When under threat, your Fight or Flight instincts are turned on, by the brain, and you stop thinking rationally….every time.

When a relationship ends badly, unless processed properly, the brain automatically stows the loss and hurt feelings deep into your mind…until you are ready to face it. In the FAB book (well, at least for geeks like me…hehehe) The Brain That Changes Itself, Dr. Norman Doige writes of the “dark side of the flexible brain” that ability to cloak emotional pain and lock you into fear.

This is where loneliness fits in. Your unconscious mind is an amazing part of the picture. Mysterious and not easy to understand, the parts of your mind that are out of sight out are fully accessible to your brain. Your brain, on autopilot to keep you feeling safe and fearful of great risk, simply does its job….reminding you how much losing love hurts.

If you meet someone new, your brain will only let the relationship develop as far as safety and fear of risk will let it. The more significant breakups you have in your past (even your parents divorce…the grand daddy breakup for many) the quicker your brain will pour that ever faithful bucket of cold water on your hopes for connection with the flashes to those past heartbreaks.

Do you recognize yourself? I know for sure that making peace with “normal” loneliness will sincerely help you to step out of your comfort zone and find your loving partner.

It is NORMAL to feel lonely. It is nothing to fear. You just need a strategy to deal with it. Acceptance is a magical elixir. Learning to accept that loneliness is ok is a powerful tool in your manifestation tool bag.

This month in the LOA in Love Club, I am featuring a favorite soul mate manifesting book, The Soulmate Secret by Arielle Ford. Starting on Monday July 11, we begin with Chapter 1 and use EFT to release any stuck places as you practice Arielle’s proven techniques. There will be two sessions of the class each and every Monday until we finish the book.

The classes are free for members of the LOA in Love Club. Membership dues are just $9.97 per month so I hope you will join us. The magic of the Club? It is the place to connect when you are lonely. I love to run into my members in the private chat room when I check in. Talk about the Law of Attraction at work! You can chat with me in real time just about every day.

I know you feel alone…but you are not. Come let us keep you company on the way to finding love. Your Love Future really is in your own hands. If you have not read The Soul Mate Secret, this is the perfect time to pick it up. If you have and you are still single….you will find that EFT with Arielle’s processes will be a completely different experience.

Oh, by the way, Arielle has agreed to do a special Q and A call just for members of this class, how cool is that! We will let you know as soon as it is scheduled

Have a fantastic 4th of July.

PS Here is a screen shot of the LOA in Love Chat room this morning.  I left a special EFT tapping script for my members.  Simply tap through the statements three times and enjoy your LIBERTY this day.  Enjoy!

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