So your guy doesn’t tell you he loves you as much as you would like and you 
feel you can’t be happy without hearing those three little words more often.
I suggest a whole new approach in getting the love you want. Begin searching for the clues of your man’s devotion in his everyday behavior. You really do need to be a detective to do this.
Detectives collect evidence objectively and then analyze the clues for the answer. Objectively is the key word! Sometimes it is near impossible to stay objective when it comes to affairs of the heart, but you have read this far so I know I am talking to the right woman.
With tongue firmly in cheek, here are some clues that I have found in my own relationship, see if you can recognize similar things with your guy!
1. Micro-managing: What? I can just hear you say, “I hate being micro-managed”, I know, I do too! But, I have started to realize that he only micro-manages out of love. I used to be annoyed when I heard, “Don’t forget to lock the door.” Or ” It’s snowing out there and the roads are slippery, better drive slow!” Now I choose to see it differently. Translation: I love you!
2. Leaving his belongings around the house: Just think, he trusts that you won’t take, steal or destroy his stuff as it litters the house. Translation: I trust you.
3. His symphony of body noises: His ability to produce his noises no longer needs to be censored, what freedom. His freedom to be himself with you. Translation: I feel comfortable with you.
4. Sports on TV: Now you can run your errands, have coffee with a friend or go to the bookstore to read a current magazine. His attention to something other than you shows his trust that you will always be there for him. Translation: I adore you!
5. Weak Calendar Skills: Knowing you will remind him of important dates, he let’s go of the need to remember anniversaries and birthdays, especially the obscure ones like the first date. Translation: Every day is like a holiday with you, baby.
Ladies, your man loves you. He is becoming more and more comfortable with you and in his way, he is showing you love and acceptance.
While you may need to hear those three little words more often, if you continue to look for evidence of his regard for you in his comfort with you, it won’t be long before your acceptance of him will change the atmosphere in your home.
When you are feeling less stressed and insecure about the lack of love language from him, you will be able to ask for what you want. When you COACH your man into being a soul mate to you, he will be much more responsive than if you nag him into it.
Men are used to being coached. Coaching assumes mutual respect. Coaching also allows that the skill the coach is strengthening is already there, just undeveloped.
When he realizes that what you truly want is to FEEL more loved and that you are willing to learn more ways to get there than hearing those three little words, it won’t be long before he will actually be saying “I love you” because you have paved the way.
Your man loves you. With your Love Detective skills you will see more evidence every day and he will soften toward you as you accept him as he is.
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